Run from it, hide from it, there is no denying it: A Christmas movie feels incomplete without a big ol' smooch at the end. Vox's Meredith Haggerty has a theory about why we love our Christmas cinema with a healthy helping of kisses.
It is not necessarily intuitive that the dominant theme of so many Christmas classics would be romance. The reasons for the season tend to be more about a love for all humanity, and many of us cherish this time of year because it is time to be with our family. (Your mileage may vary, of course.)
I am not aware of anyone in my life who has fallen in love at Christmastime. And yet, the long list of seasonal hallmarks — from 1940's The Shop Around the Corner to 2003's Love Actually — would suggest we should all be coupling up when the mistletoe is hung. It's a trope as old as Christmas movies. The now-inescapable cottage industry of Hallmark movies and their rivals on all the other streaming services is founded entirely on this idea: If you are making a movie set at Christmas, it must be a romantic comedy. (I'll leave a plug here, however, for 1988's action thriller Die Hard and 1974's horror classic Black Christmas.)
So what is it all about?
Meredith puts her finger on something interesting, I think. As I said, Christmas is traditionally focused on our families. What these stories often chart is the start of something: A romance that may one day lead to a family. It is (in her words, not mine!) the sexiest phase of the family cycle. And that just makes for good cinema.
It is easy to be cynical about, well, everything, but especially Christmas movies. Many are formulaic and reactionary, focused on preserving the fantasy of the white heteronormative nuclear family. But the best appeal to a more universal hope for belonging and for connection with our fellow human beings.
In the spirit of the season, let us focus on that message. I think Meredith says it best:
I can't deny the appeal of the thing at the heart of the matter, the warmth and vitality that makes us want to connect, to care for people, to continue the species. The best movies, from It's a Wonderful Life to — fight me — While You Were Sleeping, make you feel it. It's difficult to capture that kind of hope, not only on film but lately in our day-to-day discourse. It's not that hard to understand what's good about love, though, the rare times when you get to look right at it. I am glad we don't give up looking.
Read the rest of her wonderful essay here.